Monday, January 14, 2008

Love

It was 9th of January, 2008. I was spending a lazy evening in the gallaries of Taj Mahal Palace, Mumbai. While I was getting bored, I visted the Landmark store in the gallery and found this book - The road less travelled By M.Scott Peck.

The book is divided into four sections - Discipline, love, growth and religion and grace. I would not recommend you to read the whole book but I like the section on love. I am quoting a few interesting thoughts verbatim from the book.

Feel free to share your views about them - I myself do not agree with all of them.


The temporary collapse of egos that constitutes falling in love
is a stereotypic response of human beings to internal sex drives
and external sexual stimuli which serves to increase the
probability of sexual pairing.


Falling in love is a trick that our genes pull on an otherwise
perceptive mind to trap us into marriage.

The myth of romantic love is a dreadful lie.

Falling out of love may be the beginning of "real" love.

Sex and love are basically dissociate phenomena.
In itself, making love is not an act of love.

If being loved is your goal, you will fail to achieve it.
The only way to be assured of being loved is to be a person
worthy of love and you cannot be a person worthy of love when
your primary goal in life is to passively be loved.

Marriage is an efficient division of labor between the two spouses.

A successful marriage can exist only between two strong independent persons,
who are into it not due to compulsion of dependency but by sheer choice.

Dependency destroys rather than build relationships.
It destroys rather than builds people.

Love is not simply giving, it is judicious giving and judicious withholding as well.

2 comments:

openskyrain said...

hi kapil
its a very good book. although u may not agree to all, as u said. but my perception is very different, the premises on which the conclusions r drawn seem, true to me.in most of the relationships, dependency is involved. moreover if we talk of romanticism, it ends with sex, its at the peak when restrictions are there. thanx

Unknown said...

Hi Anand,

Thanks for visiting my blog.
I do concur with your opinion.

Kapil